THE BADDIE MAKEOVER
Does your mouth get you in trouble? Does your temper tear apart close relationships? Is your meanness messing up your blessings? This course is for you. The Baddie Makeover is about acknowledging 'bad' or less then savory behaviors and then choosing a better choice of action that will lead to a boost in self-confidence as well as an improvement in one's self-image.
ADMIT HOW YOUR BEHAVIOR EFFECTS OTHERS
J. Cole said it best: "Pride is the devil." That's probably why this step is the HARDEST step in your Baddie Makeover. You're essentially taking ownership of your behaviors and how they effect your life and the lives of those closest to you and that is hard. If it was easy, why are there so many people looking for 'closure' with folks who treated them like trash? The 'closure' people are looking for is actually called 'accountability' and THAT is what you're trying to build. Step One is about building your awareness of how your actions effect other people.
"...am I Trippin'?"
"Why am I actin' like this?"
"I want to be better than this"
'RUN IT BACK!'
Let's go over that again...
PAUSE! Pay attention to how you are behaving right now.
THINK! How would you classify your behavior right now? Would you say your behavior is a good look for you or a bad look?
REFLECT! Once you've determined whether your behavior is reflecting poorly, make the decision to switch lanes so that you can leave the interaction on a high note.
DECIDE! Take ownership of any behavioral miss-steps you previously made, then actively DECIDE to behave in a way that allows you to effectively communicate your thoughts and reflect positively on your reputation as well as your self-image.
After you've excepted the fact that your behavior may be doing more harm than good, it's time to make another decision. You've got to decide - oftentimes, in the moment - how you must proceed. This can get tricky especially if you've already put your foot in your mouth. You may also feel like you have to stay the course since this is what you are familiar with, even though you know it could very well end in disaster. Stop. Make another choice. A different choice. A better choice. Step Two is about you making the conscious choice to behave in a way that results with you looking and feeling good about yourself and how you show up in society.
"You know what?"
"I'm definitely trippin'."
"I need to do BETTER!"
"Sis, You DID DAT!"
'RUN IT BACK...AGAIN!'
Let's go over that again...
PAUSE! Remember your goals. Remember what you promised yourself.
THINK! What do I need to do right now in this moment to make sure that my actions are in alignment with the Woman I want to become?
REFLECT! Remember why you wanted to change. Remember the Woman you want to become!
DECIDE! Make the choice to BE the Woman you want to be RIGHT NOW! How does she talk? How does navigate conflict? How does she handle negativity? (Some of these things you'll need to DECIDE beforehand!)