I know. You grew up around people who constantly tested you. I get it. The school you went to was rougher than your average. I get it.
Your family practiced a 'survival of the fittest' mentality so you don't let anything slide. I get it. But you gotta get this: everybody isn't your family.
Everybody isn't the neighborhood you grew up in no more than you are the neighborhood everybody else grew up in. When you step out in to the world, you cannot bring your baggage with it and the ones who fail to respect this extremely important social rule will suffer the consequences of social faux pas after social faux pas.
Choosing to take everything people do as a 'perceived' insult is like walking around with an umbrella just waiting for it to rain. It's exhausting. Not only that, taking everything personal is choosing to see the world through the lens of your hurt. You'll see every act as an attack when that's not the case. People may begin to feel like they have to walk on eggshells around you because they think everything they do and say will be seen as an attack. This may lead to them choosing to distance themselves from you altogether because it requires to much of them emotionally to stay around you.
If you cannot help emotionally dumping your issues on all of outside, seek a therapist to help you find better coping methods for your emotional traumas. You deserve that. Everybody does.
You don't want to expose your unprocessed emotions in environments that aren't built to hold space for you in that way. You have to either find spaces like that or create spaces like that; but you don't want to just impulsively stab your flag in the sand of where you stand and just call it a 'safe space.' Nah, baby you gotta create that space with intention not after you've been triggered.
With love...
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